I remember my best friend telling me that just because I was pregnant with my first child, I didn’t have to marry the father. I didn’t heed that advice and married anyhow. The marriage was not a good one and lasted only six years. However, out of it I got my second daughter and eventually two grandsons. No regrets there whatsoever.
I turned down many opportunities that might have taken me to great heights in both career and life experience. Instead, I’m a minimalist in life and work, but am exceedingly rich in how much time I can devote to my family, something my own mother was robbed of.
As I look back on my life, fifty-four years of it, and the opportunities I have been presented with and the choices I’ve made, I’m pretty satisfied.
Do I wish there were things I could say I’ve done so far? Sure. I have only traveled overseas twice, not nearly enough for the places I have yet to see. Do I wish I had started my writing career twenty or thirty years earlier? Most definitely. Would I be prouder if I’d stood up for myself in the countless situations where someone had hurt me? You bet.
But I am happy with the risks I have taken, the time I did speak out, the decisions I’ve made to bring me to this juncture in my life. I have always said that I wish reincarnation were a true thing – then I could look forward to living all those lives I simply cannot be fit into just one lifetime. I would be a geologist, actress, world traveler; I would be rich beyond imagination. I would be a most humble being devoting my life to the betterment of others. I would be a wanderer, with no fixed home, but making the world and those I encounter my family life and experience. Yes, I would love to have five or more lifetimes to live.
But, since I have only this one I will accept it for what it is, allow myself to cherish each and every moment from the choices I’ve made, the people I’ve happened to meet, the places I have found myself living.
There are no regrets, just reflections, on a life well lived and of a future yet to unfold. I hope that you, too, can say the same.
If you had more than one lifetime, what would YOU do, be, become?